Author Topic: 12 weeks isn't "safe" yet?  (Read 628 times)

poprocks

  • Jr. Member
  • **
  • Posts: 82
  • Karma: 0
12 weeks isn't "safe" yet?
« on: February 24, 2013, 02:49:57 am »
I'll be 12w on Tuesday, and I've been soo excited to finally feel a lot safer. However, my doctor said not to tell anyone until 13w, and some people are even saying 14w. Which is it?

kmalways

  • Sr. Member
  • ****
  • Posts: 344
  • Karma: 0
Re: 12 weeks isn't "safe" yet?
« Reply #1 on: February 24, 2013, 02:52:44 am »
I think i told people at 12

TreasurezMami

  • Sr. Member
  • ****
  • Posts: 408
  • Karma: 0
  • lovin treasure
Re: 12 weeks isn't "safe" yet?
« Reply #2 on: February 24, 2013, 02:56:04 am »
I didn't find out till I waz 14wkz so thatz wen I tld
*LoveBug*

sears21

  • Sr. Member
  • ****
  • Posts: 494
  • Karma: 0
Re: 12 weeks isn't "safe" yet?
« Reply #3 on: February 24, 2013, 04:27:43 am »
I have just told our family and I am almost 13 weeks. I think its a bit of a personal decision we all make at different times. By 12 weeks the risk is very low and I would be comfortable telling people.

Babyglecksmom

  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 3143
  • Karma: 0
Re: 12 weeks isn't "safe" yet?
« Reply #4 on: February 24, 2013, 05:18:50 am »
I think 13w starts the second trimester, personally once I had my 8w ultrasound I told ppl, I was supposed to be 9w but I was 5 days behind, I think whenever you feel comfortable you can tell

zoelouise86

  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 547
  • Karma: 0
Re: 12 weeks isn't "safe" yet?
« Reply #5 on: February 24, 2013, 09:19:58 am »
I told when I found out at 4 weeks

missprego

  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 665
  • Karma: 0
Re: 12 weeks isn't "safe" yet?
« Reply #6 on: February 24, 2013, 09:40:31 am »
its whenever u feel.comfortable. i didnt tell ppl with this pregnancy till 5 months only cuz i had two loses at 9 & 12 weeks. I just wanted to wait until i knew he was fine in there :)

BabyDeanmakes3

  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 1627
  • Karma: 0
Re: 12 weeks isn't "safe" yet?
« Reply #7 on: February 24, 2013, 10:00:54 am »
Um, your doc told you not to tell yet? How strange. It's a personal decision, not medical. I told after my first us at 9w and after many prayers. Plus, I "knew" I was pregnant at 3w, so it was hard to keep it secret much longer. ;)  If you feel sure of baby right now, do it!

bm61798

  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 1073
  • Karma: 0
Re: 12 weeks isn't "safe" yet?
« Reply #8 on: February 24, 2013, 11:56:21 am »
I think that tne decision should 100% be up to the person . Even if there is a unfortanate medical history. It is not up to the dr. I told people right away but that is me.

poprocks

  • Jr. Member
  • **
  • Posts: 82
  • Karma: 0
Re: 12 weeks isn't "safe" yet?
« Reply #9 on: February 24, 2013, 12:56:53 pm »
Haha I knew at 3w3d! Yeah My dr told me after my 8w ultrasound that I was pretty much in the clear, but if I really wanted to be safe, I should wait until 13w. :/

KmB5229

  • Sr. Member
  • ****
  • Posts: 414
  • Karma: 0
Re: 12 weeks isn't "safe" yet?
« Reply #10 on: February 24, 2013, 10:38:37 pm »
I wouldnt breath that sigh of releif until week 14 when youre a full week into your sencond trimester. My second miscarriage was at 12 weeks 6 days, a day before i hit my second trimester. Im not trying to scare you just trying to give you the facts. You can tell people whenever you feel youre ready but waiting until 13-14 weeks is your best bet.

Keshia30

  • Full Member
  • ***
  • Posts: 124
  • Karma: 0
Re: 12 weeks isn't "safe" yet?
« Reply #11 on: February 25, 2013, 06:24:25 am »
It's mostly when your comfortable. I waited to tell my family until 16wks but thats my own personal choice due to my history with pregnancy. But my grammy always said you dont tell another until your in your second trimester and you dont buy anything until the beginning of your third.

Birthspring

  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 2086
  • Karma: 0
    • Birthspring doula services
Re: 12 weeks isn't "safe" yet?
« Reply #12 on: February 25, 2013, 09:10:23 am »
Yeah, I've said at 3 w, 7 w, 9 w, the longest I waited was 20 weeks and he died at 40 weeks so you're never totally "safe."

bevosnow

  • Newbie
  • *
  • Posts: 29
  • Karma: 0
Re: 12 weeks isn't "safe" yet?
« Reply #13 on: February 25, 2013, 04:24:20 pm »
You tell people when you are comfortable. There is no set rule on this. Some people like to wait just in case something goes wrong but some people tell right away. It is a very personal decision. :) Do what you feel is right.  I told close family between 8-12wks. Still haven't announced it to the world yet though.  Good luck & congrats!