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missprego

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feel a little offended.. :(
« on: February 23, 2013, 11:44:09 pm »
some of u might remember my sex rant lol how i just have no drive and its so awkward.. Well anywhoo i found porn.on hubbys phone today :( did it really.come.down to this. I know its not.like hes cheatin on me lol but still makes.me feel bad about.myself like i cant please him or give him wat he wants. Ugh i cannot wait. 5 more weeks till babys here.. Then.of.course gotta wait till everythings bsck up and runnin again lol. its been foreverr.

cjlynj

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Re: feel a little offended.. :(
« Reply #1 on: February 24, 2013, 12:21:06 am »
I'm sorry. I'm 15 weeks along, suffered with morning sickness, depression with all the crazy hormones, sensitive to smells, and with all this don't every seen to be "in the mood". My boyfriend doesn't understand sometimes, though once I opened up to him about my depression and other symptoms he really understood. I think I assumed that he knew, but open communication is so important.  Hang in there, be in the moment and enjoy this time :)

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Re: feel a little offended.. :(
« Reply #2 on: February 24, 2013, 12:35:59 am »
Communication is the key hun. I can only imagine how horrible you feel, but keeping it bottled up from him will only make things worse.

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Re: feel a little offended.. :(
« Reply #3 on: February 24, 2013, 12:36:12 am »
Don't feel bad about yourself, it had nothing to do with you and what you are or are not doing...but thankfully it's just porn and he hasn't sought outside attention. Not to disregard your feelings, because you have every right to beoffended.  Cheer up butter cup :)

Babyglecksmom

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Re: feel a little offended.. :(
« Reply #4 on: February 24, 2013, 01:19:04 am »
Something similar happened to me the last month or so I was prego, I know my husband watches porn never bothered me I used to watch it to, but those last weeks when I was at my absolute worst I felt like I wasn't enough, and I was fat and ugly and gross I even cried bc of it I got over it pretty quick though bc I realize it's not about those women being attractive it's just getting sexual energy out bc I wasn't in the mood, hope you can over come it, once babies here you can get your lovin on ;)

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Re: feel a little offended.. :(
« Reply #5 on: February 24, 2013, 04:32:57 am »
I am very much against my husband watching porn I dont like it at all and I feel very disappointed that he feels the need to watch it at all. My husband and I have had many arguments regarding this in the past and I feel im right he feels he is my opinion on the matter will never chnage but I have come to terms with the fact he is male and they ALL watch it. It doenst mean I think its ok just means I am fighting a loosing battle and feel there is much more I could be dealing with. I feel porn is verymuch a tteenage boy thing but I guess in some ways men will never grow up and inside they will always be teenage boys. Just don't take it personal and I know that's easier said than done

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Re: feel a little offended.. :(
« Reply #6 on: February 24, 2013, 04:44:25 pm »
Porn is just a manner in which to release themself. It's not that your undesirable but maybe he didn't want you too feel bad like you do now. It will be over soon hun hang in there.

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Re: feel a little offended.. :(
« Reply #7 on: February 24, 2013, 09:10:23 pm »
We had a conversation not three days ago, and find a way for each of us to express our  honest concerns about severely curtailed adult time, while still giggling like ten year olds. I've been so many years with DH, maybe we have it easier. Is a conversation plausible?

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Re: feel a little offended.. :(
« Reply #8 on: February 24, 2013, 10:28:22 pm »
I understand where youre comming from, and if i were you i would simply talk to him. First know though that he wasnt doing it ta hurt you im sure. In his own weird way he probably was doing it for your benefit, knowing youre uncomfortable and not in the mood he probably didnt want to push you or bother you with his needs when yours, in his eyes, are much more important. I mean i may be wrong and can say id feel the same in your position but tis my best guess.

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Re: feel a little offended.. :(
« Reply #9 on: February 24, 2013, 11:14:05 pm »
Agreed with babygleck Ull b back to normal soon hun

missprego

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Re: feel a little offended.. :(
« Reply #10 on: February 24, 2013, 11:22:58 pm »
Thanks ladies. yea we have talked about it we have a very good open relationship with each other. he knows hows im feelin and stuff. Just caught me off guard. Didnt expect to see that.  he says sex is different for him too right now. from gettin our.freak on every other day to not havin it in months is tough lol. but yess this shall pass and things will be back to normal soon. ;)

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Re: feel a little offended.. :(
« Reply #11 on: February 25, 2013, 07:38:45 am »
So glad yall talked and found sone common ground and understanding :) best wishes to you!

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« Reply #12 on: February 25, 2013, 01:03:12 pm »
Same boat girl I just do it to make him happy even though I'm not into it  men never will understand a pregnant woman

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Re: feel a little offended.. :(
« Reply #13 on: February 25, 2013, 06:39:01 pm »
It will be ok. It's just poem heck I watch porn it can get you in the mood when your not. Lol.  He isn't bugging you for sex cause he knows how you feel so he's releasing him self how he can